Perfectionism is the absolute thief of joy

Something my boys reminded me of while making some three little pig puppets for home-schooling.

 

~ The universe doesn’t mind how it sends us the messages we need to hear ~

 

As they stuck on the eyes they found it funny as all F to stick them in some funny places. They know they are not anatomically correct, they just thought it was funny.

 

We all need to connect to that childlike humour.

 

As a recovering perfectionist I could feel myself being drawn to saying: ‘we have to do it properly’, ‘that’s not how the teacher did it’. But I caught myself because I focused on their laughter, rather than how it ‘should’ be done.

 

And it was a timely reminder that we all focus too much on how it ‘should’ be done, when really we need to follow our own joy.

 

If we allowed ourselves that pure abandon, to just be in the moment a bit more, how would life be different?

 

Children know how to do this instinctively, and we can remember when we remove our conditioning and start living as we were designed to.

 

I know that starting my life as an entrepreneur would have been WAY easier if I’d been able to let go of more shoulds at the beginning.

 

I’d have had so much more fun if I’d been able to ditch the perfectionism and see the perfection in the seemingly imperfect.

 

It’s not fun or joyful to have to check, and re-check, what you’re doing and who you’re being against an invisible, self-imposed and unattainable list of shoulds.

 

Any action I did manage to take left me feel like I wasn’t moving. Because I barely was.

 

Perfectionism sounds like everything is in order, but it reeks of a lack of self-trust, low confidence

and fear of failure.

 

And it was all conditioning, it was never the real me.

 

The real me is also still a little kid who finds things funny just for the sake of laughing and enjoying a

moment.

 

Remember you were always perfect, just as you are.

 

Be you, be limitless,

 

 

Vicky